We have been told since we were kids, to market ourselves, to pump up our chests and tell every one of our good deeds or major accomplishments. But is that really how we want to raise our children or even be perceived by our loved ones or others?
We do sometimes have to self promote, but next time you do something nice for someone ask yourself why you have this amazing need to tell someone or everyone about what you did. Will it bring more joy to the person you did it for or will it take away from what they received?
Challenge yourself to do something really amazing for someone right now and promise yourself to tell no one, ever. Can you do it? Shovel the snow from some old ladies house up the street. Pay someone’s bill at a restaurant that was nice to you or who looks like they may need help. Do some photocopying or filing for that nice assistant down the hall. But remember, don’t tell anyone and stay anonymous. It’s amazing how hard it is to do that as we are conditioned to want to be thanked or given a thumbs up. Change that today by doing things without the need to be thanked. Your wife, children, employer will notice these things but more importantly you will distance yourself from the need to do nice things simply to be recognized. Is that really why you do them in the first place.
Suck it up and do what’s right. Start right now and let me know how it goes.